Titles are Hard

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See, that’s what the app is perfect for.

Sounds perfect Wahhhh, I don’t wanna
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defectivegembrain

Like look a big part of why you're coming across so many autistic people online is that we don't know where else to go. We are very often isolated in real life interactions. Even whatever tiktok autistic you think is doing so well is probably different face to face. Online you can often stop to think about things more, and you don’t have to look people in the eye, and there's no chance of unwanted touch, and if you're worn out from socialising you can just close the window. It's definitely not universal, and I understand there are autistic people who also find online communication just as daunting, and yes there are still aspects of it that are confusing to me, but like, if and when it works, it's an escape. It's an exception. It's not an accurate reflection of how we are in society in general.

theconcealedweapon

In online posts, you have all the time in the world to think of what to say.

In online posts, you can reread what you're saying before posting it.

In online posts, your body language and tone are irrelevant.

In online posts, you won't be interrupted and have assumptions made about what you were going to say.

In online posts, you don't have to wait until it's your turn to speak nor do you have to figure out when that is.

In online posts, you can't be physically attacked for what you say.

autijacen

Also you do not have to be speaking in order to use the internet. You don't have to understand spoken language generally, and you can set and maintain incredibly firm boundaries.

autisticheadcanonsdaily
autisticheadcanonsdaily

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Riz "The Ball" Gukgak from Fantasy High/Dimension 20 is autistic!

Anon says “there are a lot of lines Meant as throwaways that kind of imply specific stims, it's really arguable that he experiences periods of hyperfixation and/or hyperfocus and its very plausible that he has a special interest relating to mysteries, theres a couple of throwaway lines implying sensory issues, and he canonically has a lot of social difficulties!!”

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spectrumgarden

While it's true that for some people, (certain) stims are an easy way to observe distress, I think there needs to be more awareness in allistic people that a lot of autistic people just stim for the sake of it, simply because were understimulated and / or we just dont control our bodies movements.

I've been repeatedly asked if I'm fine by so called mental health professionals for rocking etc, who know I'm autistic. The immediate assumption is this is a sign of distress instead of my natural body language / movement. Less assuming, when you know someone and their stims well you might be able to tell that x stim means x emotion or situation, but for the rest of us, just maybe, dont? It's also just a bunch of stigma surrounding certain stims, because if I had been tapping my fingers etc i wouldn't have been assumed in distress. It's not my fault my body likes to rock.

akindplace
akindplace: “teaboot: “electricpentacle: “thefreewillagency: “rnlaing: “lastoneout: “ “Op is denying us the fucking golden replies to this tweet omg ” ” When i had breast reduction surgery, i got into the OR and got put on this table that looked like...
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Op is denying us the fucking golden replies to this tweet omg

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rnlaing

When i had breast reduction surgery, i got into the OR and got put on this table that looked like a flat crucifix (arms out so they could get to the girls), and i said ‘god, don’t nail me down’

they put the mask on my face and the nurse said ‘no jesus treatment today’

and the last thing i said to her was ‘jesus with some big ass titties’ and then passed out. 

thefreewillagency

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Post complete. We can all go home now

electricpentacle

When I was in for mouth surgery, I mentioned to the anaesthetist that I’d trained as a medical statistician. Turned out he’d been doing a stats course too, and rather than counting down from ten, I was slagging off the Matlab Statistics Toolbox until the anaesthesia kicked in mid-rant.

The next thing I was aware of was attempting to say “and I hate how it handles arrays” through a mouthful of cotton wool in the recovery ward.

teaboot

when I woke up from my surgery I sat up and said “am I allowed to go now?” And the lady in the room was like “? Yes?? But you probably shouldn’t get up” and I was like “Nah I’m fine. Where’s your washroom?”

She directed me to the bathroom, where, because I was a bit dizzy and embarassed about it, I walked in a few circles till I got my bearings, then went to the waiting area to sit and read and wait for my ride home.

There, a guy about my age was crying deliriously and flopping over on a lady, which I didn’t think much of at the time.

I found out later that we’d both had the same surgery, and that he was showing the “normal, expected” comedown for the anesthesia.

Less embarassed about being dizzy, now.

Then my brother had to be sedated for a procedure, and instead of getting sleepy, instead became violently pissed and tried to fight the doctor, which ended up with the procedure being canceled.

So. Apparently it’s a family thing

akindplace

Once after being given the anesthesia the doctor told me that it should be starting to work soon but after a while I wasn’t feeling anything so I turned to her and told her it wasn’t working and she replied that it did work, that I had fallen asleep and the procedure was done. It felt so fast to me I didn’t believe

notanrp-neurodivergent

When I was in to have my appendix removed they’d given me something before wheeling me back. I don’t remember what I said but I talked LOUDLY to every person I saw. When we got to the OR they asked if I needed help moving from the gurny to the table. I said no. I was wrong. I couldn’t move my arms out of the way of each other and they laughed and said “lay down. We’ll do it.” I think I told them I had it but I can’t be sure cause I woke up hours later in recovery complaining very loudly that it was hot and cold and thirsty. Not that I was thirsty. Apparently the room was thirsty. I went back to sleep and woke up much more level headed later.

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akindplace
akindplace

I don't need to perform perfection. The point of being alive it to try to be kind and make good friends.

akindplace

If you’re perfect, then you can’t learn, you can’t grow, you can’t change. Perfection is subjective and to people please everyone around you in an attempt to be what they consider perfect is not good for your relationships, since you’re always more focused on being perfect for them, and it’s not good for you, because the real you is hiding behind a polished mask of perfection. When you’re too worried about being perfect, life just passes you by. You have to live as well, the way you want to live. You can’t people please and have your own authentic life at the same time. Please try to find out where those demands for perfection come from, so you can work on letting go. Notice that the good people in your life don’t need you to be perfect, they need you as you are. Most people are not expecting perfection from you because they know it’s unattainable, and those who demand it are a serious red flag.

It’s time to let go of those internal demands and unreachable expectations, so you can finally be free and be yourself. You’re alive to make friends, to make mistakes, to learn new things, to feel joy and pain. Perfect creatures don’t exist, but you’re alive and you deserve the best of life without constantly people pleasing for fear that you must be perfect. You deserve family and friends who will like you for who you are, not for what you can offer. It’s okay to slowly let go and allow yourself to…be who you truly are.

You were born good enough. You don’t have to be perfect to become enough for others. You were born worthy and I’m sorry someone made you so unappreciated. They were wrong. You were born good enough.